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April 25, 2017

Here’s How to Communicate With Your Doctor

Published in: doctor-patient communication, how to communicate with your doctor, how to talk to your doctor

Communication is a skill that’s vital – not just in our relationships, but in just about everything we do. By the time we’re in this so-called midlife, we hope we’ve mastered it, but chances are we slip up from time to time.

From the insignificant (like your order of a  “triple, venti, soy, no-foam latte”) –  to the noteworthy (like telling the waiter to make sure there’s no shrimp in that seafood stew, since you’re deathly allergic to shrimp) –  without proper communication, we risk a return trip to Starbucks or worse: A life-or-death trip to the ER.

The words we choose – and just as importantly how we say them – have a huge impact on getting our point across. Even non-verbal skills like body language give away a lot of information, whether we realize it or not at the time.

Often, one of the most common communication problems occur with our own doctors. I can think of many reasons why, and I’m sure you could add your own to this short list:

  • Managed care has put time constraints on many medical practices.
  • Patients feel vulnerable or intimidated by their physicians and become tongue-tied or afraid to speak up.
  • Communication skills decline as students progress through their stressful and demanding medical training (cites this article  in a review of doctor-patient communication).
  • Some doctors avoid discussing emotional issues (as do some patients).

Yet, without proper communication, our health is at risk. Family physician Karen Trollope-Kumar, M.D., says that “Like any healthy relationship, good communication is fundamental…when that vital link of understanding is broken between doctor and patient, a cascade of negative consequences can result.”

I’m very grateful to Dr. Trollope-Kumar, who offers the following excellent tips for improving communication with your doctor. 

  1. If you are seeing the doctor for a complicated issue ask the receptionist to book you a longer appointment.
  2. Prepare what you’re going to say ahead of time, and keep it concise and focused.
  3. If you’ve done some research on the Internet about your problem and want to share it with your doctor, make sure you use reputable sites to get that information.  Doctors get frustrated when patients bring in reams of information of dubious value.
  4. Avoid coming into the doctor’s office with a list of unrelated problems – focus on your main concern for that visit.
  5. If you are going in to get results of an important test, bring a friend or relative with you. Sometimes it can be hard to remember what the doctor has said, especially when the topic is emotionally laden.
  6.  If you have a particular worry about a symptom (for example, Could this be cancer?), express that concern to the doctor.
  7. If the doctor advises a treatment you don’t feel comfortable with, explain your reasons, and see if an alternative approach would be possible.
  8. Keep your follow up appointment, and at that time let the doctor know how well (or not) the treatment has worked.
  9. If you’re not happy with the service you’re getting, communicate this clearly but politely, using “I” statements.  (For example, “I feel concerned about how long it took to receive these test results”).
  10. If you’re happy with the service you’re getting from your doctor, a word of thanks or a card is always appreciated. Doctors are human too!

And since we’re talking about communication, here’s what I think midlife women want their doctors to know. (It felt good to get that off my chest!)

More related reading:

What to Say to a Friend With Cancer

Better Communication With Your Doctor

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  1. Irene S. Levine says

    April 26, 2017 at 12:47 pm

    Great reminders!

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