I know a lot of people who can duck out of life’s stresses by meditating.
They look all peaceful, with colors floating all around them. Kind of like this picture.
Me? I can’t do it.
That’s not for lack of trying. In my travels to various spas – one of my very favorite ways to relax and learn about what’s new in exercise, diet and healthy living – I’ve come upon, and experimented with, many classes on meditation.
Two things happen: Either I fall asleep (and that’s not because I’m meditating, it’s because I’m bored jet-lagged) or I try so hard that I get myself all worked up and do anything but meditate. Instead of helping my stress, it sometimes causes it. I’m sure some of you can identify with this: you start thinking about the strangest and most inconsequential things, like how you really should have smiled at that woman on line behind you at the grocery store, or if your hair looks better right after you wash it or the day after that.
I officially give up. Yet I don’t want to totally give up, since a growing body of evidence points to many health benefits of meditating. And aside from that, who doesn’t need to break the crazy momentum of their day and get back a little bit of themselves?
So instead, just so I don’t continue to frustrate myself (and others in classes who might be sitting near me and get annoyed that I’m
snoringnot in the zone), I’ve decided to find other ways – little ways – to relax and decompress, if only for a few moments. (But what precious moments those are!)
Instead of meditation – per se – how about just spending more time in silence? No, I don’t mean going away to a silent retreat, although many welcome this type of oasis where you don’t talk to another soul for days on end. Many people actually enjoy having alone time in order to relax, but some can struggle to switch their minds off and properly relax. Some find alternative medicines, like these THC and CBD products (such as delta 8 thc gummies), to be helpful to help calm their minds and de-stress when life gets a little overwhelming. However, I understand that these products won’t be for everyone, so here are some practical solutions to help you relax, most of which can be incorporated into your daily routine to really let your mind breathe and encourage a positive mental attitude towards life and the world.
Shut off the sound/ringer on your cell phone and/or computer. Did you know that each time you hear the “ping” of an incoming email, the dopamine level in your brain fires? Translation: This chemical gives you a feeling of euphoria that controls your behavior (stimulants like cocaine and methamphetamines act directly on the dopamine system. No, I’m not suggesting you use these). What’s wrong with that? It feels so good that checking email becomes an addiction in no time…which leads you to crave more, and eventually it just plain saps your energy. And there virtually is no silence when your brain is constantly checking in with other people.
Get out of your environment. There’s something about being in a different space that can lead to reflection and the feeling of getting away. Often it opens up your mind and helps it run free. Hopefully, you can even get back in touch with the things you care about most. If you can’t leave your immediate environment, find ways to escape it. This could be through gaming, reading, writing or drawing. Gaming is popular as it actively allows you to transport yourself to another world where you’re playing another character, reading and writing allows your imagination to flourish, whilst drawing has become increasingly popular since adult colouring books became a thing.
Turn off the TV or radio. It can become a habit – and so many times you’re not even watching or listening. Instead, it’s just background noise. And that kind of noise can make you anxious, preoccupied, unsettled.
Drive in silence. Try it – it’s really calming not to have the radio on (see above). And it increases self-awareness, another goal of meditation.
Exercise. The repetitive actions of things like jogging, walking or swimming can be meditative, much like the way, in meditation, you repeat a mantra to relax and focus yourself.
Stop multitasking. Then you can pay full attention to what you’re doing and not add all that stimulation. (And isn’t that another goal of meditation?)
Don’t pick up the phone on the first ring (that is, if you didn’t take suggestion #1 and silence it). Breathe three times – and then pick it up. It teaches you to breathe and not react right away. There’s something downright powerful in not reacting right away (at least there is to me).
Rosalba Gordon says
Wow! you totally right Sheryl, I don’t know how to meditate and get bored pretty soon… buy, I feel so good when I turn all the noise off and stay in silence looking the sky through my window. I just need few minutes to feel more relaxed.
SherylK says
Isn’t it amazing how just a few minutes can sometimes melt off hours worth of stress?
Roxanne @ Champion of My Heart says
Really good ideas. I cannot meditate either, and there are ALL KINDS of noises during the day that wear on me. I sometimes put in ear plugs to block some of it out.
SherylK says
Hmmm…hadn’t thought of earplugs, although that is rather obvious. I sometimes do use them to block out my hubby’s snoring, though 🙂
Alexandra says
I don’t have the ping of a cell phone to turn off, no cell phone. But I did discover that cutting the sound on emails makes me relax. Another secret is walking at the beach at low tide. For me, that is the closest I get to meditation.
SherylK says
If I lived near a beach, I’d be there every single day! Lucky you.
Jennifer Margulis says
I love the idea of thinking of spending some time in silence instead of meditating. I do wish I could meditate better! We’ve been having a moment of silence at dinner most nights. It’s just a few minutes. But I can feel the stress ebb away.
SherylK says
That’s a really nice dinner ritual, Jennifer, and a good way to start a meal. Great idea.
Brette Sember says
These are great. I don’t meditate either, although I think that when I am exercising it is almost the same thing.
SherylK says
Agreed, Brette. Certain exercises are better than others, I find,
Vera Marie Badertscher says
My mind is full of extraneous thoughts when I try to clear it, but I kind of enjoy watching those thoughts float by and seeing just what it is that is taking up space up there! There are other things that can put you in a meditative state–as Brette mentioned, exercise is certainly one. And it can be relaxing just to let your mind wander, particularly when you’ve been concentrating on wordcentric work.
SherylK says
You have a good attitude about all of this, Vera. Thanks for sharing!
ChristineGL says
Coincidentally I just saw a video for this going around, but – alas! – haven’t find the time to sit and watch it. Lately, I listen to music (not the radio) to try to relax. It helps.
http://www.ted.com/talks/andy_puddicombe_all_it_takes_is_10_mindful_minutes.html
SherylK says
Music…yes. Must be the right kind, though. Sometimes even soft music gets on my nerves. Strange, I know.
Thanks for sending the link to the TED talk, Christine!
Alisa Bowman says
Getting out of my environment is key for me. I need a change of surroundings every once in a while–even if I cause it just my rearranging my office.
SherylK says
True, Alisa. Our house is on the market, hence, I’m keeping it super-clean and uncluttered. When I walk into a room, it “quiets” me.
Living Large says
I have “quiet time” in the afternoon. Sometimes I’m able to meditate, but most times I fall asleep as well. These are some good tips!
SherylK says
Good for you for being able to relax that much, LL. . I could take a nap every single afternoon. Not that I do…but it’s on my “should” list 🙂
Donna Hull says
I’m not good at meditating either. Walking in nature is my substitute to meditating. It both relaxes and invigorates me.
SherylK says
I’m with you, Donna – but only if the weather cooperates! Come Spring, I’ll be happy to do that.
MyKidsEatSquid says
I’m a wannabe meditator too. It sounds so appealing and yet you’re right that it’s hard to quiet the voices in your head. I guess there’s a new HBO (second season) show that delves into this topic. I heard the Laura Dern (the co-creator, lead) talking about it recently on NPR. I guess we’re all thinking about it…
SherylK says
I don’t know about that show, MKES. I’ll have to look into it. Thanks for pointing that out.
ruth pennebaker says
Wonderful advice here. It’s always been hard for me to meditate, too; the mind-chatter just won’t stop.
SherylK says
We are of the same monkey-brain variety, I guess, Ruth.
merr says
I try to remind myself that there is no “right” way to meditate, and that anything that shifts me out of my mind-focus and into the present is valuable, feels good and is good for me.