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September 18, 2012

Shopping For Shoes Used to be Fun.

So many shoes…so few choices
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When did it become such a chore?

I love shoes. My closet can attest to that. And I’m not alone: ShopSmart magazine conducted a poll of 1,009 women in the U.S. age 18 and older and found that they own an average of 17 pairs of shoes. As reported by PR Newswire:

Over half of women (51%) own more than 10 pairs and 13 percent have over 30 pairs (not including athletic shoes). “Shoes never make your butt look big, you don’t have to worry about squeezing into them if you’ve put on a couple of pounds, and they can instantly make you feel sexier. Maybe that’s why, despite the economy, we’re still buying shoes,” said Lisa Lee Freeman, editor-in-chief of ShopSmart.

But lately, as I get older and super-cranky if my feet hurt, shoe shopping has lost its thrill. What once titillated now depresses and even frightens me. The shoe no longer fits: It’s too tight, too high, too pointy, too uncomfortable. I hate to admit it, but here goes: Shoe Shopping is the New Bathing Suit Shopping. It’s fraught with anxiety, dread…and eventual disappointment.

In my quest for a pair of decent looking dress shoes to wear to a slew of upcoming weddings – suddenly all my friend’s children have decided to tie the knot – I recently visited a Manhattan department store that boasts a shoe department so large that it HAS ITS OWN ZIP CODE. Oh, and its own dedicated elevator, too, to quickly whisk you up so you don’t waste time stopping on all the other floors, lest you spend your money on something else.

Shoe shopping is one serious business.

The displays were overwhelming; a sea of merchandise taking up every available inch. I started to perspire ever-so-slightly; hyperventilating was not far behind. I decided I’d go about the job strategically, borrowing what I’ve learned about shopping in a supermarket. Walk the perimeter first.

In no time, I was circling the floor madly, attempting to find something – anything – to try on. I finally grabbed a stiletto, turning it over and over, admiring its sexy lines, supple leather and its breathtaking beauty. And then just as quickly, I set it back down. Stilettos? Me? I’m terrified I’ll lose my balance and fall.

How about the pointy-toed, sleek pump…maybe that would be better? Nah, I should know better; years of squeezing my feet into shoes like those gave me the chronic neuroma I’m plagued with today; the one that makes every step feel like I’m walking on rocks (unless I’m wearing sneakers, of course). On and on I ventured, becoming more pessimistic and less enamored with every passing minute.

When I glanced at my watch, a full hour had passed. I had not tried on one blasted pair. My stomach was growling and my spirits were just as wanting. The only thing I could use on that floor…was the restroom.

I’m still searching for that perfect pair of shoes. You know the ones I mean; they’re the perfect blend of beautiful, sexy and comfy. But I’m tired of tolerating pain for the sake of fashion, although I can’t say I’m quite ready to tolerate frumpiness for comfort. A friend has suggested that I head online where she’s found what she claims is one of the best selections of orthotic friendly shoes for women that provide comfort to those struggling with pain in their feet without sacrificing style. I might give this a try in the hopes that it will reignite my passion for shoe shopping once again! It shouldn’t be too much to ask to be able to walk in comfort whilst looking good at the same time and it looks like I may have found a solution!

Oh, I almost forgot to mention this: That same poll that found the average woman owns 17 pairs of shoes? It also found that this woman only typically wears three of those on a regular basis.

Could it be that the other 14 pairs are just too damned UNCOMFORTABLE?

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  1. Melanie @ Frugal Kiwi says

    September 18, 2012 at 4:23 pm

    My shoes are comfy and generally tend to the outdoorsy look. Frumpy? Some, no doubt, but I don’t have to curtain my activities due to a lousy shoe!

    • SherylK says

      July 23, 2013 at 12:07 pm

      Frumpy=Comfort. And that’s all you need sometimes to make you happy. When our feet ain’t happy…nobody’s happy.

  2. Alexandra says

    September 19, 2012 at 11:22 am

    I can so identify with this post!! I used to live in Paris, where glamorous shoe shops could be found on every corner. I brought my favorite pairs back to the USA when I moved. Most have heels. I no longer wear heels. My legs are so much happier since we started in with flats. I even have my favorite brand now and shop for shoes/boots online. You’re right. When you find a really comfortable pair, you forget all the others.

    • SherylK says

      September 20, 2012 at 8:12 am

      I’m beginning to be a big fan of flats, too. Good thing I’m tall and don’t really *need the heels. But I do find if a heel has a platform that lifts the ball of my foot off the floor a bit, it can work.

  3. Brette Sember says

    September 19, 2012 at 12:08 pm

    I *wish I could walk into a store and buy shoes, but I wear a wide and very few stores carry them. Shoe shopping for me means ordering 10 pairs from Zappos and hoping one fits then returning the rest.

    • SherylK says

      September 20, 2012 at 8:11 am

      Oh, yes, Zappos. One of my favorite cures for not wanting to go shoe shopping. Let the shoe come to you – I love them!

  4. Irene says

    September 19, 2012 at 2:00 pm

    I so share your misery. I have so many shoes because half of mine aren’t co mfortable!
    Irene

    • SherylK says

      September 20, 2012 at 8:09 am

      Irene,
      Maybe we all need to have a shoe party with all the shoes we don’t wear – what’s one person’s discard might be another’s treasure!

  5. MyKidsEatSquid says

    September 19, 2012 at 10:22 pm

    My shoe collection has expanded lately–my teen wears the same size shoe and I do so we share whatever shoes we/she has. I must say, tho, I always tend to get the same kind of shoes. And I’m a sucker for red shoes.

    • SherylK says

      September 20, 2012 at 8:10 am

      lucky that you can share with your daughter. And it must be easy to shop for shoes, since it’s easy to spot the red ones!

  6. Alisa Bowman says

    September 20, 2012 at 12:40 pm

    I definitely own more than 17. Most of the are pretty comfy. I don’t wear heels. But not all of those shoes go with everyday clothes and I don’t dress up that often.

  7. Donna Hull says

    September 23, 2012 at 2:51 pm

    I have very narrow feet, which makes shopping for shoes a nightmare. It’s hard to find them in the stores without paying big bucks and, even then, there aren’t many narrow sizes to choose from. I’m so tired of buying inserts and heel lifts to sort of make them fit. No wonder I go barefoot at home.

  8. Living Large says

    September 24, 2012 at 8:23 am

    Ugh. I used to love shopping for shoes, but I have Plantar Faciitis now and have to be very careful what I buy.

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    September 24, 2012 at 8:26 am

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  10. ruth pennebaker says

    September 26, 2012 at 2:43 pm

    If I see a sexy, dangerous pair of shoes, I immediately spring forward and imagine myself plummeting face-first in them and knocking out my front teeth. How sexy would that be?

  11. Anne @GenFabulous says

    July 18, 2013 at 3:26 pm

    Too funny. Now I want to go count my shoes.

    • SherylK says

      July 23, 2013 at 12:11 pm

      Okay, Anne…I’m waiting. How many are you up to? C’mon, spill.

  12. Nancy says

    July 19, 2013 at 7:21 am

    I used to wear high heels 24/7 and now suffer from more foot issues than I care to list here but Plantar Fasciltis is at the top of the list. Our son is getting married in Aug. and trying to find heels I can wear was a necessity; came across the Ziera brand (from New Zealand but can also be found in some US stores. They have removable foot beds for orthotics but the arch support in their insole is very good. I purchased a pair of nude patent platform heels I can actually wear (at least down the aisle, for the mother/son dance, etc)
    http://fancynancysfashionsafari.blogspot.com

  13. Helene Cohen Bludman says

    July 19, 2013 at 7:37 am

    I am SO with you. It is almost impossible to find comfy shoes that are still stylish. Shoe shopping used to be fun, but no more.

    • SherylK says

      July 23, 2013 at 12:10 pm

      Perhaps some designers out there will get the message? Please? I know there are some pretty comfy shoes that look fashionable, but they usually come with very high price tags 🙁

  14. Jennifer says

    July 23, 2013 at 10:59 am

    I own more than 17 pairs because I have such intolerance with pain. Being stylish is crucial, but I won’t sacrifice comfort. Consequently, when I find both in a pair of shoes, I take care of them and hold on to them. Plus they also usually cost me an arm and a leg so I buy classics.

    • SherylK says

      July 23, 2013 at 12:10 pm

      You sound like a very savvy shoe shopper, Jennifer. The older I get, the more I’m convinced that classics are the way to go…they never go out of style.

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